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Weekend for the books

Monday, August 20th, 2007

This weekend was one of the best weekends I’ve had in a long time. Here are the top twelve reasons why:

12. Swam in the Pacific Ocean
11. Got phone calls from Cassandra and Stephanie
10. Hung out with Matt Howell
9. Rode my bike with Alex & Matt to Venice and back
8. Went to the Elf Cafe, ate a delicious salad and had a crush on the waitress
7. Went to the Machine Project to learn how to make jam
6. Made friends with Kline & Alexi
5. Met Sahra, Mike and Andres at the il corral for the recycled music show
4. Ate some insanely spicy and delicious spring rolls at Pure Luck
3. Thoroughly enjoyed Superbad with Matt, Alex and E. McGrath
2. Made my much anticipated return to Food Not Bombs LA
1. Didn’t use my computer at all this weekend!

Pain in my… shoulder!?

Thursday, August 9th, 2007

The last week has been pretty painful for my right shoulder. I’ve been playing a lot of ultimate frisbee, biking too much, and sitting at a computer for long, uninterrupted hours. I took the day off of work yesterday to visit the a doctor’s office for the first time in two years. Here are the top ten reasons I hated going to the doctor:

10. Dirty waiting room carpeting
9. Filling out paperwork and realizing I forgot something
8. Unfriendly receptionists
7. Stacks of outdated issues of Highlights magazine
6. Waiting for the doctor in a tiny room covered in diplomas
5. Over-reliance on pain medication as treatment
4. Those scales that remind me of 9th grade science class
3. Seeing other sick people
2. Co-payments, deductibles and insurance
1. Getting the diagnosis that I have tendinitis in my shoulder!

Los Angeles, sans car

Wednesday, July 25th, 2007

Rereading my journal from when moved to Los Angeles, I’d forgotten just how stressful an experience it was when I first walked off the plane. My first anxiety-filled mission when I arrived was trying to find a car so that I could, in turn, find a place to live, work. I remember thinking that owning a car was an essential part of the LA equation–like having a tent if you want go to camping.

Let me make it perfectly clear that I don’t like driving and never have. When I was twelve I repeatedly had dreams about being on the school bus and the driver suddenly disappears and I have to talk the helm. From an early age I disliked the idea so much so that I was really late in getting my driver’s license–a year and half after my peers. My parents had to force me to take driver’s ed because they were sick of driving my ass around.

I only had budgeted about $1800 for my new wheels. The first place I looked was Craigslist, however, everything there was either too busted, too far away, too good to be true, or too out of my price range. In addition, I knew dick squat about cars, let alone buying, registering and insuring one. My first instinct was to do what my mom does when she doesn’t know something about what she is buying: look in the Consumer Reports. To me, the Consumer Reports felt more like reading the cliff notes without reading the book itself. In other words, it only helps to know that Honda Accord earned 4.3 stars on reliability if you can tell the difference between a sedan and a horse-drawn buggy. The extent of my car experience at that point had been limited to sitting shotgun while my brother drove me to school.

By some stroke of luck, uncle Craigslist landed me an afternoon meeting with Devan (pronounced dee-VON). He had advertised a 1997 red Nissan Sentra for around $1900. I met with him at a parking garage and he was wearing sunglasses the whole time. Not a very personable chap. In fact, I didn’t like his cool attitude, I didn’t like his faded LA sunglasses and I certainly didn’t like his name (which I repeatedly mispronounced). He asked me if I had car insurance and if I wanted to drive the car. I said yes even though my answer to both was a resounding no. As I was backing out I took a sharp turn out of the parking spot and rubbed the front fender against a white cement pole. Devan freaked out a little bit and I swore to myself to try and seem more dramatic than him in the hopes he would say, “That’s okay, don’t worry about it.” He didn’t fall for it. To this day, it still embarrasses me to think of that moment–not my finest.

Devan sucked and I’m pretty generous when it come to giving strangers the benefit of the doubt, especially a stranger whom I’m about to give $1800 to. He would not take a check from me (and I hadn’t yet established my new bank account because I’d only been in LA a week and had been looking for cars the whole time). My rental car needed to be returned by the end of the week and I was under an immense time constraint. Out of desperation, I withdrew that cash from my Boston account and that was that. I was now the owner of a shiny (technically it was dulled from the sun) used 1996 (he lied to me, it was not a 1997) Nissan Sentra. Added to the list of unforeseen ailments: the car’s AC was broken, the steering fluid had a slow leak, the radio was messed up, it needed new breaks and new ignition wires and, to top it all off, there was freshly spilled coffee on the front console. I was screwed and I knew it. I dubbed my car “Red Barron”.

It was even more intimidating finding an honest mechanic than it was finding the car itself. The mechanic I eventually found instantly exposed my naivety for not having had the car inspected before I purchased it. Why didn’t I think of that? Where was that in the Consumer Reports? I had spent another $700+ on the Red Barron to fix all the mechanical problems. The car made me want to cry.

Five weeks in to my adventure, while I was driving my roommate to the airport, I was rear-ended. The car that hit me was a commercial pickup truck for a plumbing company. I’ve never been in an accident but I know that if you are in an accident you should exchange basic insurance and license information. The guy refused and told me to call his company and they would take care of it. (Everyone was okay, by the way). The Red Barron was looking pretty bad, it looked as if the Hulk had tripped over the back of my car. Even that initial parking garage scrape to the front fender was nothing compared to this. The next day I was leaving to go home for Christmas and there was absolutely nothing I could do to remedy the situation until I was back in LA. It was a stressful vacation thinking about how I would get screwed again.

Yet, there is a happy ending to this story. I returned to LA and after deliberating with the plumbing company for a couple of days, they finally agreed to reimburse me for the damage done–which was well over $3K. Now, I had all the money back that I had invested as well as a car that still functions. If you are reading this, in your face Devan!

After I got my first parking ticket, I made the brash decision that I never wanted to put anymore money into this that machine. After I had found a job and became familiar with the public transportation system, I gave the car to my friend Matt. I also used a chunk of the insurance money to buy a new sweet road bicycle which I used to commute to my job. Plus, as an added bonus, I’m in the best shape of my life for riding my bike everyday. The Brokeback Nissan, for all the headache, was the best car that I ever had–all two months of it.

Red Barron is hurt

About My Hair

Thursday, July 19th, 2007

While I was growing up my mom cut my hair. She owned her own salon for many years before giving it up when I was twelve. In fact, other than one other person (who I’ll get to) and myself, my mom has been the only person that has cut my hair. I’ve never been to a barber/hairdresser and never paid for a haircut. In fact, the thought of going into a hair cutting store makes me anxious and sweaty.

There are benefits and downsides to having your mom cut your hair. The obvious was convenience–but even that was not always a given. Often times it was hard to schedule an after-hours appointment with her. She worked another job and often cut hair out of our house, so the last thing she wanted to do at night was cut someone else’s hair. Now working a full-time job, I can’t blame her.

The downside was that my hair was completely dictated by my mother’s fashion sensibility. From the time I was born until this year, I had a standard boys cut. Sometimes I would let it grow longer and shaggier and bigger, but for the most part it conformed to her standard template–which also happened to be the same for my brother. The one exception to this rule was when I tried to cut my own hair when I was 21, however, my attempt was piss-poor and it showed.

The only other time someone cut my hair, was when I was about seventeen. I knew, from growing up, that my dad has taken six months of hair dressing school while in his 20s–he dropped out because he was allergic to the chemicals. I was really overdue for a haircut and my mom was being difficult. In desperation, I asked my dad. I also knew that he was cutting his friend Steve’s hair regularly so it wasn’t unfounded that I would ask him. He gladly welcomed the ability to break the monopoly that my mom had on my head. He didn’t do a bad job even though his hands were more clumsy.

Because my hair was something that was always dictated for me, I never thought to try something different. I wasn’t part of a social group or identity growing up that promoted hair style as a form of expression. As a result, I never viewed my hair style as a choice in the way that most people do. When I cut my own hair the problem was not an issue of skill or scissor precision, it was that I didn’t know any other way to cut my hair other than that one that I was given. It’s the same reason why post-communist Russia is really crappy at capitalism.

Since I moved out to California, things have really changed. I’ve gotten better at doing my own hair and occasionally ask my roommate for help–I even shaved my head once! It’s taking me while to think outside the social constructions that is my hair style, but I have hope for the future.